Do Not Design The Plant 🌱
Do Not Design The Plant 🌱
Many parents do not want to raise a child; they want to realize a plan.
They decide in advance who the child should be, what he should excel at, and how his path should look.
But the child is not an extension of the parent's unresolved ambitions. He is a human being Allāh created with a specific fitrah, a specific temperament, and a specific set of abilities.
When parents force a shape that does not match the child, they create friction where there should have been ease. It is like forcing a triangle into a square: something always breaks.
The child either shrinks into compliance, or hardens into resistance. Both come at a cost.
Your task is not to design the plant. It already has one.
Your task is to recognize it, protect it, and give it what allows it to grow upright.
—Abū Sahl ʿAbdurraḥmān al-Qaddārī (an ex-child)
Many parents do not want to raise a child; they want to realize a plan.
They decide in advance who the child should be, what he should excel at, and how his path should look.
But the child is not an extension of the parent's unresolved ambitions. He is a human being Allāh created with a specific fitrah, a specific temperament, and a specific set of abilities.
When parents force a shape that does not match the child, they create friction where there should have been ease. It is like forcing a triangle into a square: something always breaks.
The child either shrinks into compliance, or hardens into resistance. Both come at a cost.
Your task is not to design the plant. It already has one.
Your task is to recognize it, protect it, and give it what allows it to grow upright.
—Abū Sahl ʿAbdurraḥmān al-Qaddārī (an ex-child)
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